Several years ago, I had the pleasure of being introduced to Arianna Rees. Weekly, I look forward to her “Self-Care Friday” emails which include simple tips to feel more peace, power, and grounded in your life. I always find value within her communications and wanted to share her wisdom and expertise with you. All the best, Jeff
Making Your House a True Home Sanctuary
By: Arianna Rees
We’ve been home more than ever before during the past year and as a mental health provider, I’ve seen this act as both a blessing and a challenge for everyone.
‘Home’ has taken on double-duty as a workspace, the office, the kids’ school, the only social space many of us may have, and where we connect virtually with the resources we have in our community.
This can simultaneously make home feel busier, overwhelming, or really emphasize some loneliness. It can challenge our desires to have the space in our four walls be the true sanctuary that we need and want.
Here are some simple, time-tested tips to help you create sanctuary in your home wherever you are:
- Be mindful of what you bring into your home: Because we’re all online so much these days, we’re constantly being bombarded by all kinds of news and information. Even if we’re not actively engaging with it, habits like having the t.v. on in the background or checking the news several times a day has a compounding effect and will leave you mentally tired. Practice consciously reducing the noise you’re taking in and see how that makes you feel. If you’re using it to fill in the loneliness, consider having uplifting content be the bulk of what you’re hearing, seeing, and reading.
- Practice the pause: Often we’re running from one need to another in our homes. We aren’t getting that decompression time when we’re switching gears between home office hours and making dinner/helping the kids with homework/etc. Take 5 minutes to pause where you can between tasks and between different roles in your day. It’s a form of self-care that will give you the resiliency you need to be present in your life by mentally closing out one responsibility before shifting to another.
- Remove the clutter: Clutter has negative effects on your mental and physical health.It can leave you feeling anxious, stressed, or even depressed. Studies have shown that cortisol (the stress hormone) levels are higher in people who have a cluttered home. Chronic clutter can leave your body constantly in a low-grade fight-or-flight mode, which is taxing on your body and mind. Just pick one spot to work on and see how good that feels!
- Claim a corner of your space as yours: Whether it’s your bedside table or a corner of your yard, create a spot in your home that feels special. Fill it with what makes you happy whether it’s a favorite momento, a soothing picture, or a fresh coat of paint. When life feels uncertain and beyond your control, research shows that having something that you do feel in control of naturally feels good.
- Diffuse essential oils: We know from research and our own experience that smells have a distinct impact on us. Aromatherapy via essential oils delivers molecules directly to the parts of the brain that run our emotional center. Through simple means, you can promote feelings of calm with specific oils like citrus, lavender, chamomile, and frankincense.
We may not be able to control what’s happening in the world at large, but we can intentionally create a more inviting and healing space at home. No matter how big or small, your home can truly become a sanctuary. Listen in on this week’s podcast for even more ways to create an emotionally safe space at home.
About Arianna Rees
Arianna Rees, M.A. is a therapist-trained life coach specializing in emotional health and wellness. She is the host of the With Real Intent podcast that blends science and spirituality along with practical tips to help you feel better. She currently serves clients via Zoom and over the phone from her own personal sanctuary in Mesa, AZ. You can find her at feelbetterwithari.com and at feelbetterwithari on Instagram.
If you would like additional information on Arianna’s private coaching work, she can be found online at https://feelbetterwithari.com.